My life sucks. My boss sucks. Actually, everything kind of sucks…
You may not think that you are choosing to accept your life circumstances, but you do.
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” – Denis Waitley
In either case, you can’t complain about your situation. Complaining creates a vicious cycle that drags you down and consumes you.
You definitely don’t want that…
Let’s take a closer look at your 2 options
Choice number 1: You accept your life circumstances as they are
It’s not so much your situation itself that makes you suffer, it’s your constant wishing that it was different.
It’s the comparison between how things are and how you think they should be.
You need to be brutally honest with yourself here. Is there anything that you can change about your life circumstances?
Some things are simply out of our hands. When there’s nothing you can do, you need to accept that your situation is what it is.
Being frustrated, upset and angry won’t make it any better.
It will actually make it worse because your bad mood poisons everything around you.
So your only option for your peace of mind is to accept your current circumstances and work on your mindset.
Make the best out of it or at least don’t think about it so much.
When you stop resisting, new opportunities can open up after a while.
You just weren’t able to see them when you were all grumpy.
Luckily, we aren’t a victim to our life circumstances as often as we think.
Most of the time, we have the power to do something about it. Which brings us to…
Choice number 2: You change your circumstances
Believe it or not, most of the time there is something you can do. You usually have a choice.
You may not always like your options but you do choose.
When you have a crappy boss who not only ignores the hard work you put in every day but also treats you badly, you choose to tolerate that.
Until the day you decide that enough is enough. Often, your current pain needs to be stronger than the pain that change will create.
And when that happens, you wonder why you didn’t do something about it sooner.
Probably because your painpoint didn’t hurt bad enough before.
In conclusion
When you are unhappy, always ask yourself what your options are.
You are not a victim of your life circumstances.
And realizing that you’re choosing the awful situation you hate right now can help you take the sting out of it.
Instead of asking “Why is this happening to me” you can say to yourself “I am choosing this for now”.
Like staying in a job you hate because you don’t want the hassle of jobhunting. Or you really like your coworkers.
Or you prefer the security of this job rather than risking it for a new company or going out on your own.
“When you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” – Maya Angelou
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