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How to Build Yourself Up When Doubt Hits

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Starting is scary and complicated

You are your own worst enemy. Your inner critic can be ruthless.
But you need to build yourself up if you want to be successful.

Ditching self-doubt can be hard (also check out these 45 quotes to overcome self-doubt).
You’ve probably been wanting to do something for a while, maybe for years. But you didn’t.


  • starting a blog
  • a Youtube channel
  • writing a book
  • moving to a foreign country
  • travel the world
  • do charity work for people who desperately need help
  • go back to school
  • apply for an awesome new job
  • get into great shape

Unfortunately, we often don’t do anything about our dreams.
Because we’re so worried about what could go wrong. The self-doubt and what-ifs can be paralyzing.

  • What if I mess up?
  • What if no one is interested in what I do?
  • What if something terrible happens when I try this?
  • What if they laugh at me and my ideas?
  • What if…

A failure would be so embarrassing, it’s safer not to take the risk.
After all, there is no shame in not trying, no one even knows about your dream…

But every once in a while you feel a pinch in your heart and you wish you could just take a deep breath, ditch the self-doubt and go for it!

Build yourself up instead of overthinking everything

Most successful people say that all you need to do is start – and they’re right.
It sounds simple, but if you want to get good at singing, you have to sing.
Want to get better at writing? You need to write.

Practice makes us better and without practice, you stay stuck where you are.
Forget about being perfect and start.

It’s the only way to gather momentum and gain experience.

But what if I fail?

Potential failure can be scary. Our mind comes up with so many different horror stories, it isn’t even funny.

I don’t know about you, but when I hear a kind of “fake failure” story, it doesn’t make me feel better.

You know, these stories of successful people, where everything actually turns out fine immediately. No struggle, no nothing.

Somehow that’s not comforting.

You want to know how to survive a real failure. Or when people struggled for years before they finally had a break-through.

That is helpful because it shows you that it’s important to build yourself up, to persevere and that there is hope.

When it comes to your own dreams, you don’t want to fail and feel embarrassed.

You imagine everything that could go wrong if you follow your passion.
And you don’t want to experience the disappointment of your failed project.

So it’s much safer not to try at all.
Which is why you may have put your project and dreams off for years.

You told yourself you weren’t ready, worthy, perfect or special enough.
It’s intimidating to practice out in the open, for everyone to see.

You think it would be more reasonable to wait a few more months until you’re better prepared.
And these months turn into years…into forever.

Give yourself the benefit of the doubt

You’re not a mind-reader and you can’t see the future.
Don’t stress about things that not only haven’t happened, but that probably won’t happen at all.

Overthinking is creating problems that don’t exist

Be positive and build yourself up.
You owe it to yourself to give it a shot!

Take a deep breath, tune out the self-doubt and step out of your comfort zone.
If you don’t take action, you may not regret it now, but one day, you will.

Build yourself up: Better an oops than a what if

Build yourself up and take the leap

I’ve wanted to start a blog for many years, but I never did.
Not for lack of time – if you truly want something, you make time for it.

No, for a mean and simple lack of courage.
Wasting years what-iffing and postponing to “later”.

Later, when I have more free time. Later when I have a better laptop, later…

Since I starting blogging only a month ago, it’s still scary to hit the “publish” button.

But I do it because I don’t want to look back one day, thinking “if only I had tried…”

No regrets

Maybe I have a greater impact in sharing this now, than after two years of blogging.

It’s not easy to admit I’m worried, but I hope it’s more convincing to hear from a beginner to ditch the self-doubt.

Don’t compare your chapter 1 to somebody’s chapter 11. If you plan your next few steps, you’ll reach your goals little by little.

It’s important that you build yourself up instead of talking down on yourself.

Yes, the people you admire have beautiful blogs, great videos, and amazing content.

And they probably got to where they are now because they took the leap one day and got better over time.

They got better and their equipment got better.

It’s okay to not be great when you just start out.
“Doing” will teach you… not waiting around for unrealistic perfection.

The most effective way to do it, is to do it

Amelia Earhart

Sometimes it’s enough to read a blog or a quote to give us the final nudge.
So I hope you could relate to this post and that you will build yourself up from now on.

Please comment if you’d like to add something or share your own personal “ditch the self-doubt”-success with us…

Have a wonderful day,

Improve yourself. Improve your life!

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