You need to be your own cheerleader first! No matter if you have outside support or not. It all starts on the inside.
Of course, we all prefer when our friends, family or coworkers support us.
It’s a real ego booster and feels great when others have our back and encourage us.
Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.
So when you are confronted with doubts or a lack of understanding from the people close to you, you need to encourage yourself.
If you are passionate about something, no one has the right to talk you out of it. But you need to believe in yourself first.
Be your own cheerleader
It’s easy to doubt your goals and dreams when no one seems to be on board.
Sometimes it goes as far as getting openly criticized or laughed at. But even a simple lack of support hurts and can make your determination waver.
What if they are right and your idea is ridiculous? What if you don’t have what it takes?
But you shouldn’t let anyone talk you out of what you want to do.
It’s too easy to be critical. This doesn’t make it a valid or qualified opinion, though.
What do they really know about what’s possible and what you are capable of?
Ask yourself: What would it take for me to succeed at this? What do I need to do and who do I need to be to nail this?
Try to identify the most important steps and milestones and start working on them.
Impossible is just an opinion – Paulo Coelho
You know yourself best
You should always be your own cheerleader, not only when there’s no one else to cheer you on. We often overestimate other people’s strengths and underestimate our own.
Believe in yourself, in your abilities, and in your willpower.
Make a plan for the next important steps that you can follow.
You got this!
And if no one else is in your corner, it should fuel you even more.
“Go ahead, underestimate me. That’ll be fun”.
Don’t give others any control about how you feel. Thoughts are not facts and you don’t have to believe any of the negative (self) talk.
This is easier said than done, but if you make a conscious effort, you will gradually get better at ignoring them or your own inner critic.
Or to say it in the words of Imagine Dragons:
Second thing second, don’t you tell me what you think that I can be, I’m the one at the sail, I’m the master of my seaImagine Dragons – Believer
You don’t need to be aggressive about it. Just know your worth and don’t let other people hurt you.
Do your thing and do it for you. The more we can detach ourselves from outside approval, the better.
If your dream motivates you, then that’s all that matters. Pursue your goals and get stronger in the process.
It won’t all go smoothly but it’s normal to mess up a bit while you’re figuring out something new.
There’s no need to beat yourself up about it. You’ll do better in the future.
So be your own cheerleader. You have to count on yourself.
Especially if you don’t have anybody else to support you. And if you’re not sure what you want, try this fun exercise to discover what matters to you.
Have a great day,
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